They say to us that we must be concerned not merely
about who murdered them, but about the system, the way of life, the philosophy
which produced the murderers- MLK in his Eulogy of the girls who died in the
Sixteenth Street Baptist Church bombing.
This
weekend should have been no different. After all, I am used to reading news of little children dying horrible deaths thousands of miles away. Usually it
results in very little action from my side because I proceed to carry on with
my day after fuming a bit and may be a posting here or there on a social
networking site. But this one was different, this one hit closer home and kept
me and my wife worried. We were worried about what are we doing to protect the
future of little children in our lives. Isn't it shameful that an act so
monstrous in scale has to be enacted to wake us from our slumber. Isn't it
shameful that we keep quite when our own President approves the bombing
missions that kill many children in other countries, some in schools, some while
sleeping?
Why am I
asking this, how is this relevant?
People tell me not to worry. It
is a small statistics, the crime rates are falling etc. But isn't the madness rising? When I sat down to reflect upon the horrible
tragedy I did not merely question the motive of the killer or focused on this
tragedy, instead I tried to look in the mirror. Was he the only one who was brutally murdering children. Was I doing something similar, just in a more sophisticated and detached way. If so
I tried to find what I can do to address it.
I don’t have a silver bullet,
even though there are some common sense solutions to restrict it temporarily.
But there is also a bigger picture, a part of which I see. In it I see that
there is lot to be done that we all can individually contribute to reduce this
madness. There is a lot we can do to
remove violence from our society, both implicit and explicit. Direct and structural. This is my attempt to
add my voice to the conversation, and yes we need one desperately, and tell
what I see.
What
follows is the recollection of the questions I explored and the answers I came
up with.
Q: I am shocked at these occurrences of mad violence.
I am fearful of it but what can I do? What can we do to address this?
A: I
think we have to break out of this confusion and fear cycle and make some
concrete efforts towards a more peaceful future. Not all is lost. The acts of
self sacrifice and bravery by the teachers gives me some hope and courage and
let me know that not everything is broken. But it might be worthwhile to
inspect what needs to change.
I agree
that I am tempted to put some sort of gun control law at this time. At least
for acquiring automatic weapons that can take down many in a short duration.
There has also been some talks that such acts are done to hog some attention,
we could also start by denying that. A sort of non-cooperation with the
killers. Hence-forth we and the media together anonymize the next killer. We
don't want to see their pictures, we dont want to hear their thoughts, we dont
even want to know their name.
But I am
aware that any such thing would just be symptomatic treatment and won't last
very long. Like for gun control just enacting a law without changing hearts and
mind would be a partial success. The bigger problem is that the poison has
spread inside us and we need to detox and also dismantle or slowdown the
factory that keeps producing the poison. The good news is that even though it
looks like a tougher task it is much more achievable because we need to start
at ourselves and given enough will power we can change ourselves?
Q: So how do you propose we go about gun control?
A: We
are a pretty polarized society so it is definitely not going to be an easy
discussion. The first problem is that just enacting a law without changing
hearts and mind would be a partial success. We have to find a way to change
hearts here. If we jumped to debating it may never end. We can present facts on
both the sides but it would work only if people on both sides were listening.
If we were to talk about snatching away their guns they would feel victimized
and would fight back again so it may not be a permanent solution. I don’t think we should wait for the
government to "do something about it". I think we can all start participating in
this quickly if we can organize. We can
start informational - picketing the gun shops where such weapons are sold. Get arrested if needed and suffer for
it. The people in favor of gun ownership
are still people and their hearts will eventually melt. The tragedies must have softened it a little
already and our sufferings will bring them closer to us to have a
dialogue. As Martin Luther King pointed
out in his speech after the bombing of Sixteenth Street Baptist church our
unearned suffering will be redemptive.
Before
we can have any meaningful dialogue with
them we first need to remove the threat from the equation. We must be very
clear that we want them to give up on this setup that allows anyone to amass
such killing power. If they claim "Right to bear arms" reason with
them. History is full of examples where people got rid of the despotic
government without blowing things up. If they claim self-defense educate them
about the statistics that even though in few situation it has been helpful to
posses a gun, by and large the chance of dying a violent death is 4 times
higher if you are in possession of gun (and in most cases these are accidents
without provocation). If they want to go hunting work with them to find out why
they would need a 100 rounds a minute shooter?
Q: I don’t think the gun lovers are capable of
understanding.
A:One
thing to remember is that you must never give up on the humanity of the other
side. I will give you an example. The Pathan tribes of Afghanistan were known
to be fierce warriors and they lived and died by their sword/guns for centuries
before Khan Abdul Gaffer Khan (also called Frontier Gandhi) walked that land.
Long story short, he was able to raise an army of 100000 from among these tribe
that was known as Khudai Kidmatgaars some even called them the Red Shirts (not
to confused with the Russians). The unique thing about this army was that the
soldiers carried no weapons and faced their adversary thus. Their story of how
they nonviolently faced the whole British army platoon at Kissa Kahani Bazaar
is well known in nonviolent circle. So much so that the British employed
Nepali/Indian soldiers refused to fire on them after sometime even when they
were threatened with court martials (which was eventually imposed on them). If
such a change can be brought in people considered ruthless weapon wielders who
cannot be changed? You have to know how to appeal to their heart, like Khan was
able to do.
In the
NV circle we talk about the Laws of Suffering where the NV actor goes thru
voluntary sufferings to bring out the suffering already inherent in the
situation. When doing so he opens a channel for dialogue and perhaps a change
of heart. For example in the story above the Khudai Khidmatgaars did not beat
themselves nor ran away. They stood their grounds to let the soldiers on the
other side know the kind of suffering their actions were causing to essentially
"good" people. Thus changing their heart and allowing both sides to
see each others as humans.
Q:So we can picket and argue our way out of this misery?
A:No it
will useful but not sufficient. We
should keep opposing the guns but we also need to work on ourselves.
Q: What do you mean? What do we need to change in
ourselves, what is in our control that is causing these incidences of violence?
A: I
don't think I am in a position to give you the exact formula. But I can talk
about a few factors. I will leave it up to you to judge what you want to change
and what you want to keep. There are several factors some we can change some we
cannot but we can address many of them. For example you cannot change the
history and the violence in the past, but we can definitely address it. There
is promotion of violence in the general atmosphere. This should not be hard to
change if you can stop buying this idea that we need violence to solve
problems. Look at the movies where the lead character mows down everyone in
sight only to emerge virtuous and victorious. Look at the way you conduct
businesses where the rivals are supposed to "bury each other" or
"crush" the competition. Vandana Shiva has a good phrase on how we do
business in the language of war. This we can change quite fast by our own will
power, by opting out of it. Boycott the movies/art that degrades the human
image or alienate us from each other. Be a bit more compassionate in your day
to day life and refuse to cooperate in acts that degrades value of any human. I
know it is easier said than done, but we have to start somewhere. So I would
recommend that we start addressing these problems around ourselves . A general
plan would be like
1. Reduce
the promotion of violence in and around yourself.
2. Deal
with the violence that is already within you.
3. Deal
with the violence carried out in your name.
4. Address
the violence you have committed.
5. Acknowledge
and work with the victims of any violence.
6. Educate
the young ones on the dangers of violent mindset and power of
love/non-violence.
Q: What is the promotion of violence you talk about?
A: In
general when we give consent to the notion that might is right we set a bad
example. For those around us and most importantly for the kids. When we given
consent to the notion of our separateness that we are all sort of individuals
who have no common grounds or goals, when we give consent to a lifestyle where
we each exist in a separate compartment we deliver the second blow. And when we
project that some lives are more worthy than others we deliver the third and
final blow. All of this is blatantly promoted by today's media culture and
unfortunately for most people it is delivered through the medium that has no
intention of addressing this problem.
Q: Can you elaborate it?
A: Let's
see, I don't know the full extent but this is what scares me. Kids in this
country spend 2-3 hours in front of TV everyday, forming their perception of
the world based on unrealistic portrayal. They see 3000-5000 commercial
messages a day. Many play violent video games for long hours. Did you know that
the US Army uses some of these games for its soldiers? Not to make them a
better marksman but to enable them to kill without remorse.
Not only
that, many parents believe that this is probably OK that somehow their kid will
escape any ill-effects of such blitzkrieg . That somehow everything will clear
up soon, that somehow "evolution" will take care of this and the
"crazy ones" will soon take themselves out of the gene pool and the
ones who cannot be misled by such programming will prevail. It is really
wishful thinking.
Q: You mention the ill effects the mainstream movie
violence is having on the society, the psychological effects this culture of
greed, fear and mean-world portrayal in news, TV programs are having. I watch
these movies all the time. I don’t go out shooting.
A: You
just gave me statistics of 1. A vast majority of people who share this common
experience have led a different life than you. It affects them differently.
When studies after studies are showing that statistically it is causing a great
harm to our youths isn't it time to notice it?
Q: But the Japanese make more violent movies than us.
They don’t have these problems?
A: Each
culture-society reacts differently to different input. While abortion
technology is stated to bring free choice to women in the West, it is the cause
of a large scale feticides in India where close to 20 million females were
never allowed to be born. If the violent movies are working for them, great. I
don't agree that we have the right support structure here to handle the after
effects of such conditioning. Hence I am opting out of these sources of
"entertainment".
Q: So you are now blaming it on the TV?
I don’t
intend to say that TV/Cinema by itself is evil, but the control of programming
in the hands of few(about 8 companies right now), in the hands of those few who
would like us to believe that we will achieve peace and happiness by buying
stuff is harmful to us. Our mainstream TV/Cinema world exist for and on
advertisements. Remember how we were sold one TV once “Neighbor’s envy, owner’s
pride”? Such business prospers on our alienation. Humans don’t function well
when they are alienated and when this happens in large number it becomes
dangerous.
So I am
not proposing a ban on TV, what I am asking is that you use your judgment when
exposing yourself and the young ones to the TV and perhaps look for the
alternatives. May be it has not done it to you but these mediums have enslaved
a large population in this country . My request is that you assist in breaking
out of this chain and help free up the others by forming alternatives.
Q: But wouldn’t life be boring without these means of
entertainment?
A: True,you could start slow or become more selective. For example a few years ago I
used to be in theater every weekend. Sometimes twice every weekend. But today I
have been to theater only once in past two years. I still watch TV once in a
while but my viewership is receding. Soon it will be limited to watching
Democracy Now and few documentaries. The best part of looking for alternatives
is that you will need more friends and people and it will work on your
alienation problem as well. If you look around you will be surprised at options
available where people come together and have a good time . Over time I have
realized that no movie made me laugh as hard as some of my friends and kids do.
I am blessed to have them around. And unlike the reports about Hollywood stars
they get more beautiful with time.
Q: You also believe that there is a history to such
violent built up?
A: Yes
like many other societies the one we currently live in was built up on large
scale violence. Be it the Native American genocide, inhumane slavery or the
third world colonization and ravaging (Vietnam, Iraq, Afghanistan), nuclear
bombing the list is endless. And our society has been complicit (if not an
active participant) in all of these episodes. The effects of these were not
isolated but they spread all around. It propelled the most violent institutions
in to more powerful positions from where they could make life changing
decisions. It also fed the thought that after all might is right and that some
lives were disposable. I would claim that there is fair amount of guilt
consciousness and probably some fear that if we aren't alert enough we might be
a victim ourselves. This has also led us to adopt an attacking posture with a
hand on trigger all the time and made it easy for anyone to convince us that
slaying of someone was necessary.
Violence
is also prevalent in all of our institutions. Look at how we treat our sick
ones, the weak and our old ones. We send the message that you are on your own
and we make people insecure in general. Not only that we some how rationalize
the loss these of lives (even before they die) with very convoluted logics. We some home accept extremem economic disparity in a system where nothing moves without money. Our
prisons hold the largest population and it is so obviously tainted with racism
that we use the statistics to reverse blame the races for being criminal by
birth! We can't fight eradicate violence with first addressing the structural/systemic violence.
Q: But clearly we cannot change the history.
A: Yes
but we can still address them. We can start by accepting as a nation that what
we did was wrong and make a sincere effort to correct it. This in turn will be
the best lesson we give to our young ones that such violent acts are wrong but
there is a way out of the hell. If you caused someone harm today how would you
try to fix it. Would you not do your best to make sure that the harmed ones can
get back on their feet and carry on with their lives, try to fill the void.
Wouldn’t you make a pledge to be double sure you do not repeat this mistake
ever. Have we done this in the cases I cited above? What does our action teach
our young ones?
You can
also address the present before it becomes history. How much discussion do we
have when our president approves missions abroad that blows up little children
with high tech machinery operated from a comfortable office in CA? Isn't that a
cold blooded murder too? Eventually the chicken come home to roost, because
some kid down here learns that it is OK to blow up some innocent bystanders to
get what you want. Remember the wise words of MKL? "Injustice anywhere is
a threat to justice everywhere"?
Q: Finally what do you propose should we do about the
education of the young ones? How do we teach them the art and science of NV?
A: We
need to first purge the violence of our education system. By that I don’t mean
just the physical aspects of it but the inherent violence in a system that
pushes and reserves the right to punish. We can educate the children about the
peace and justice system a few techniques to do dispute resolution etc. But
perhaps the best way to impart this education is when the teachers and the
school administration starts practicing this art. We need to work on how we
treat low performance. In NV setting we internalize that every kid is gifted in
a unique way and if they aren't performing well in certain areas it is not
because they aren't useful but it is because we probably don’t have the right
challenges for them. In such cases instead of punishing them or labeling them
we need to find a more constructive outlet for their energies. Everyone has a
need to be respected and we need to ensure our education system addresses that.
If there are trouble creators we need to be little more proactive about
engaging them and helping them give meaning to their lives. Of course you are
going to tell me that is lot of effort. But that just means you need to staff
better, train better and invest more money in the education system. We aren't
doing that, instead we are cutting the funds and increasing the stress on
teachers. Practice of NV requires lots of time and patience and we are taking
both away from the teachers.
The
other thing we can address at school level is to help them unlearn the myths
they pick up in the mainstream culture. All the generalization that exists in
the culture that guys have to be macho and girls have to be good looking objects. We have left that to parenting which under the pressure of current
economic system is falling behind as well. We have seen increased amount of
materialism among the children and they feel very deprived and frustrated when
they are denied stuff that they crave. In a NV setting kids learn to connect
with themselves and each other and get happiness thru accomplishing meaningful
stuff.
It is my belief that these kids, who will be spared the violent ideas that our generation has cooked up for so long, will build a more just and peaceful world.
